i've been in love with a guy i've been seeing on and off for more than a year. we are not "officially" committed to each other, so there are really no expectations.
just last month, he has decided to not see me anymore. he insists we can't get along with each other and that we're both old (he's 39 and i'm 30 ), and should get on with our lives.
i know he means well that we should move on, it's just that i want him so bad i wanted him to see past my shortcomings, and remember he fell in love with me once too.
i really don't know what to do now. i'm so alone and lost.
Dear reader,
The end of a relationship always has a definite negative emotional impact. You are experiencing this despite being "not officially" committed and having no expectations. It is normal to still want to hang on to the relationship because you have most probably invested much, emotionally. The companionship is something that you are also yearning for. Remember though that there should be mutual need to go on because a relationship is meaningless if it is one sided.
What is praiseworthy about your companion is that he made it clear to you that it was time to go on separate ways. At least he was honest and courageous enough to do this. That being conveyed to you, stop convincing yourself that something's still there between the two of you just because you had good times together and that he was in love with you once.
It is normal to feel sad, alone and lost at this time but you have to accept the current situation and move on.
Sincerely,
Encarnita Ampil, MD for DepNet.ph