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Subject: Distressing Situation at Home

The question was submitted 20 May 2010

I figured out my parents are hiding something from me. My sister knows it. But they think I haven't realized it.
The thing is I live in Manila now. I don't go home unless I'm free and homesick. I realized that my father cheated on my mom with a whore(prostitute). Now what's worse? my mom caught this HPV from him. The problem is dealing with the situation. I just feel that I wanna kill that woman and him. both IDIOTS.
It's difficult to share this with anybody else and to deal with this. Psychologically speaking, this will have a big impact on me.

Answer from DepNet

The answer was published on DepNet 03 June 2010

Dear reader,

It must have been very difficult much less shocking for you having known that you're father is having an affair and at the same time infected your mom with HPV. In situations like this, we always need somebody to share our frustrations, anger and other negative feelings with. Although you have made that first step in expressing your feelings, may i suggest that you seek consult with a mental health professional. Having a professional help you go through this process of grieving so to speak will greatly facilitate the resolution process for you. Of course, these consults are always taken in confidence. It doesn't mean though that going to a mental health professional means that you are mentally ill. Of course, it will have a big impact on you psychologically and emotionally but it doesn't mean that it will stay that way for you.

As david weatherford says" when faced with a challenge, look for a way, not a way out"

Good luck to you and I am wishing you the best.

Sincerely,

Dr. M. Hembra for DepNet.ph